A place where we can talk on some important issues that women face as they try to get to that "simple" and "beautiful" part of being a woman. I'll be writing Sunday evenings, beginning in January. Hope to talk with you then.
Returned from San Diego after visiting my wonderful family out there.
Here is Andrew, my brother, with his brother-in-law, Ed enjoying Sea World!
I returned to the "AKRON STORM" and to the news that one of the top stars from GLEE, Cory Monteith, died alone in his hotel room at such a young age on Saturday. Many, many are mourning him. He was amazingly talented, but had a very troubled upbringing, including 16 schools in 16 years. He became an ADDICT at age 12. He has been "free of his addictions" and only recently his "demons seem to have come back" and he had another rehab stint. At the time of his death, he was healthy, happy and getting ready for an expected great new season.
Addiction at age 12. What must it have been like for Cory? What pain was he hiding, covering up, escaping from? What is it like for any of our children that are experimenting with addictive drugs or other behaviors... or us as adults? Is there a way we can help? Is there a way to find help?
Next week we will be finishing our mother's precious story, and a possible live interview with her the following week.
In subsequent newsletters in this series, we'll be telling you about some places that you can go for help, or to help others get help with addictions, as well as other "testimonies".
Remember, what you have to share might be very influencial to others.
My neighbor has invited me to attend a meeting at a local church that helps young and old alike with addictions of many kinds. If any of you would like to go, contact me and I will see if you can be invited as well.
The Young Wife and Mother's Story continues below.
Until Next week,
The Continuing Story of a
Young Wife and Mother,
Written for the First Time, Especially for You.
"My lifestyle quickly caught up with me, and I soon found myself in my first 28-day treatment program. I was skeptical of how much I really needed it (those programs were for the Real alcoholics, not me). But I did leave with a bit of a renewed spiritual sense that I needed a Higher Power to help make sense of my life. I was warned not to take on too much "stuff" during my first year of recovery, that people new to the program shouldn't even get house plants. But that seemed too much like a rule,
and I knew it didn't apply to ME.
During pregnancy, my obsession with alcohol was lifted, at least for a while. I thought all I needed was to be pregnant, to have a family. As a result, I didn't work the program and for a while, all was good. During my last trimester, my cravings returned. I wanted a drink. I thought of calling my obstetrician to see if she could move up the date of my scheduled cesarean, so I could drink.
The worldwind of my life and the lack of a real commitment to recovery soon overwhelmed me again.
With my newfound domestic lifestyle, new resentments formed daily. In an effort to deny my obsession to drink, I began to project my feelings of self-hate toward others. I resented those mothers who could drive their kids around sober without having to hide vodka in a kid's sippy- cup.
I resented wives who did not have to tape flasks to their legs to enjoy a simple date night with their husbands. I resented the families who could enjoy one another without using their children as props in this everyday play that I felt I was starring in. I resented the faithful and holy ones who seemed to have such a wonderful relationship with God. All of that resentment turned to hate --I hated myself for all the things I wasn't. The wife I couldn't be, the child of God who couldn't emancipate herself from the grip of alcoholism, the mother who drove her children while in a blackout time after time.
Till next week.... with the final segment from this young mother ...
1. Do you find yourself hiding your addiction from your loved one? Maybe not in a but in other ways?
Do resentments build against someone else for intruding upon your privacy or challenging you in your addiction?
You might be experiencing the same type of resentments that this mother has gone through, even if the addiction isn't yours.
Some of us have lived with alcoholics and it still has lasting impressions on our life and how we relate to others.
Some of us might have been hurt by a family member or friend using pornography, or being addicted to eating, and still we can't get over the deception and lying to us while they were trying to hide their addictions.
We might be holding resentments due to an obsessive compulsive disorder; or just because of some other hurts in our life. ...or maybe you are dealing with the bitterness of someone who is in the midst of an addiction.
Review the series on bitterness and work toward your freedom that comes through a personal connection with God and an ability to move forward in courage through prayer and reflection and friends... or possibly through a 12 step program or professional counseling.
Getting help is a good thing! You will be on your way to freedom, despite what anyone has ever done to you, or you have done to them!